My views on bffs

In case ya didn't know, bff is the acronym of best friends forever. Do I believe in that? No. I don't. This bff thing might exist for others but truly speaking, bffs are really rare. I take it quite literally. Adding a 'forever' behind isn't for fun. It changes the whole meaning for a best friend.

For my entire life, I only had a best friend. Take note of the 'had', because this bff thing between us has gone. I still miss her, but I don't think she misses me. She has changed over the years to the 'popular girl' and popular girls don't hang around quiet, random and dreamy girls like me.

I used to believe in having bffs but now I don't. People usually have a hars time trying to converse with me because I usually just nod or make small comments which isn't enough to start a conversation. Consequently, people often avoid talking to me and thus, decreasing the circle of potential friends.

Anyway back to the topic, I take someone I call a bff seriously. Bff isn't someone whom you spend a day talking to and then poof, this bff thing exists. For me, I'd usually proclaim a person my bff when he/she has known me WELL ENOUGH for at least a year. And he/she also must accept me as her best friend or this bff thing wouldn't really exist for me.

So whenever a good friend of mine calls me her bff, she's usually not my bff if you see me kinda wincing at her choice of words. Good friend is fine with me, but truly calling me a best friend is another thing. I rarely call anyone my best friend unless he/she is truly my best friend. It might sound cheesy, but a best friend is like a soulmate that's bound to me by blood. In the recent years, I doubt I called anyone my best friend. Although I don't have a best friend, doesn't mean I don't want one. I'm still waiting for someone that will get along and accept me for who I am. My ideal best friend doesn't have to be flawless because nobody is, just someone willing to stick by my side and be there with me. Not be there FOR me, but WITH me.

I don't know what you'll consider someone as a bff, but I urge you to consider a bff seriously, especially if you decide to add the second 'f' behind. A bff isn't one that just talks to you all day and make you laugh, he/she is something much more. They are with you no matter what, you won't be alone.